Negative thinking is a default for some people. These “glass half empty” people often find themselves thinking, “Why me? I have the worst luck. Everything’s terrible.” But if this sounds like you, changing your thoughts isn’t as easy as flipping a switch.
During a particularly off week recently, I found my glass looking pretty empty too. It was in this moment I heard a strong, independent woman’s voice in my head say, “Ain’t nobody gonna fill your glass but you.”
At first I thought, “RuPaul, is that you?” But no…it was me realizing that within reason, I’m responsible for filling my own glass.
I find the more that people dwell on their own misfortunes and how things don’t automatically benefit them, the emptier their glasses start to look.
Here are some ways to overcome the negative, “glass half empty” point-of-view:
- Accept that not everything is designed for YOUR fulfillment.
Life’s about give and take. Sometimes you’ll be on the giver’s side and receive nothing in return. Guess what? That’s OK. Not everything can result in instant gratification, but you might still have to do it.
- Accept that not everything is about YOU.
I think Carly Simon said it best.
- Accept that ain’t nobody gonna fill your glass but YOU.
Positive feedback from praise is a wonderful thing, but sometimes when you’re kicking ass and taking names in life, you’re doing it because it’s what’s expected of you. Learn to give yourself a solo pat on the back for even the smallest of accomplishments and move on. Just because you’re not praised, doesn’t mean you haven’t done well.
Now that we’re learning to escape the pity party of one (which isn’t easy), in my next post I’ll cover general tips to view your glass as half full.
In the meantime, let me know in the comment section how you fill your glass, or take it from these guys.